Democratic presidential loss turns into pathological behavior?

By Sinclere Lee; writing for ‘Black News’

Chattanooga (BNW) — It’s troubling how some people in America are so upset about Trump’s victory that their behavior has become pathological.  It’s easy to understand grief as it relates to losing a loved-one, but to lose an election and not get over the defeat is beyond reasonable behavior.

We all experience grief at loses large and small, perhaps the Clintonites would be consoled if they understood the five-stages of grief as a means to relieve their pain.  The five-stages of grief can be summed up as: Denial and isolation, Anger, Rationalizing, Depression and Acceptance.  People who are grieving do not necessarily go through the stages in the same order or experience all of them.

In the first stage, Denial & Isolation are common emotions. The first reaction to learning she had lost the election was to deny the reality of the situation. This Denial & Isolation is what happened when Hillary came from isolation to speak to her staff. “I love you and will be forever grateful to you and I hope that our paths will cross in someways over the months and years to come,” Clinton told her staffers.

It is a normal reaction to feel pain from overwhelming emotions.  It’s a defense mechanism that buffers the immediate shock of the loss.  We block out the words and hide from the facts.  This is a temporary response that carries us through the first wave of pain.

However, when anger rears its ugly head, it begins masking effects of denial and isolation that’s wearing off.  Now, the reality and its pain re-emerge but you’re not ready for it.  Your intense emotion is deflected from your vulnerable core, redirected and expressed instead as anger.  The anger may be aimed at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family.

Democrats meanwhile, are seeking to regroup in the wake of Clinton’s shattering defeat and their failure to regain control of the House or Senate.  For example, Sen. Elizabeth Warren of Massachusetts, a lodestar for liberal Americans, urged supporters to resist Trump. “You can either lie down, you can whimper, you can pull up in a ball, you can decide to move to Canada, or you can stand your ground and fight back and that’s what it’s about,” she said.

That old warhorse, Harry Reid acts like he lost the race, saying “I have heard more stories in the past 48 hours of Americans living in fear of their own government and their fellow Americans than I can remember hearing in five decades in politics,” he wrote. “Hispanic Americans who fear their families will be torn apart, African Americans being heckled on the street, Muslim Americans afraid to wear a headscarf, gay and lesbian couples having slurs hurled at them and feeling afraid to walk down the street holding hands.

“American children waking up in the middle of the night crying, terrified that Trump will take their parents away. Young girls unable to understand why a man who brags about sexually assaulting women has been elected president. We as a nation must find a way to move forward without consigning those who Trump has threatened to the shadows. Their fear is entirely rational, because Donald Trump has talked openly about doing terrible things to them.”

This ginning up fear by Democratic leaders is not helping the cause of bringing the country together — their hurt is so unnatural and destructive it violate common sense.

Rationalizing I another method in understanding what went wrong.  This is a normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability that is often a need to regain control–

    If only I worked a little harder to convince the working class voters that I was for them…
    If only I was a more likeable candidate and appealed to people who feel left out of America’s prosperity…
    If only I had tried to reach the independent voters…

“We have better ideas, but they have to be heard for us to actually translate those ideas into votes and ultimately into action,” Obama said after Hillary’s loss.

“No one is sorrier than me,” Clinton said, according to a Democrat on the call. “Heartbreaks don’t heal overnight, and this one won’t.”

“Democrats win when we harness the power of everyday people and fight for the issues they care about,” Rep. Keith Ellison said in a statement. “It is not enough for Democrats to ask for voters’ support every two years. We must be with them through every lost paycheck, every tuition hike, and every time they are the victims of a hate crime. When voters know what Democrats stand for, we can improve the lives of all Americans.”

Secretly, you want to pray to God.  Maybe calling on a higher power allows you to make a deal with God or the devil in an attempt to postpone the reality that you lost the race. This is a weaker line of defense to protect you from the painful reality.

Your depression has manifested its-self greatly in losing an election you should have won. Sadness and regret predominate you doing this depression.  You worry about the costs in money and time you have lost. You worry that, in your loss, you have spent less time with others that depend on you for the risk of running for office.  This phase may be eased by simply clarifying and reassuring yourself that better days are on the way.  You may need a bit of helpful cooperation and a few kind words from others.

Finally, you come to accept the reality of the loss and try to move on but it’s hard.  Y our acceptance of reality is palpable to your situation because most people have accepted the loss.  “It was a wave you couldn’t stop,” said Tad Devine, a longtime Democratic operative who helped run the Vermont senator’s surprise 2016 primary campaign. “That’s the only explanation.”

Pete D’Alessandro, Sanders’ 2016 Iowa campaign director, said he entered Election Day expecting a much different outcome from the one he was absorbing after a day working to get out the Democratic vote around Waterloo, Iowa.

“I thought it wouldn’t be a blowout by any stretch of the imagination, but I didn’t think they’d be fighting so hard,” he said. 

Sure, losing a presidential election is hard for all involved, but you have to pick up the peaces and move on — sure it’s hard but you have to do it.  Sure you have pain, now.  Sure I feel your pain but I won’t share your hurt that comes with your pain.  That pain is for you to bear!!

 

 

 

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